Why India Needs Less Arranged Marriages and More Love Marriages

Why India Needs Less Arranged Marriages and More Love Marriages

Introduction

Marriage in India has long been a social institution deeply rooted in tradition, with arranged marriages being the dominant norm. While the practice has its merits — such as family involvement and cultural compatibility — it often overlooks individual choice and emotional fulfillment. In contrast, love marriages, where partners choose each other based on mutual affection and understanding, are gradually gaining acceptance.

India needs to shift toward more love marriages (or at least, more choice-based unions) for several reasons: declining marital satisfaction in arranged setups, rising divorce rates indicating mismatched partnerships, and the evolving aspirations of a modern, educated youth. Let’s explore why love marriages could lead to healthier, more sustainable relationships in India.

The Current State of Marriages in India

1. Arranged Marriages Still Dominate

• A 2018 IPSOS survey found that 74% of young Indians (18–35 years) prefer arranged marriages, citing family approval and societal acceptance as key reasons.
• However, a 2020 study by the National Family Health Survey (NFHS-5) revealed that only 52% of women in arranged marriages have any say in choosing their spouse, with decisions often made by parents.

2. Rising Divorce Rates Suggest Incompatibility

• India’s divorce rate, though still low (around 1.1% as per 2021 data), has doubled in the last two decades, with urban areas seeing sharper increases.
• A 2016 study by the Mumbai Family Court found that lack of compatibility was the leading cause of divorce, often stemming from rushed arranged marriages without proper courtship.

3. Marital Satisfaction is Higher in Love Marriages

• A 2013 study published in Psychological Science found that couples in love marriages report higher levels of happiness and intimacy compared to arranged marriages.
• Another 2021 survey by Shaadi.com showed that 68% of love marriage couples felt emotionally satisfied, compared to 54% in arranged marriages.

Why Love Marriages Are Better for Modern India

1. Individual Autonomy & Gender Equality

• Arranged marriages often reinforce patriarchal norms, where women have less agency in partner selection. Love marriages empower individuals, especially women, to choose based on personal compatibility rather than familial pressure.
• Countries with higher rates of self-chosen marriages (like Sweden, the U.S.) tend to have lower gender inequality (as per the Global Gender Gap Report).

2. Lower Risk of Domestic Abuse & Dowry Harassment

• The NFHS-5 (2019–21) reported that 30% of married Indian women face domestic violence, with dowry disputes being a leading cause.
• Love marriages, where financial transactions like dowry are less emphasized, could help reduce such cases.

3. Better Emotional & Mental Well-being

• A 2020 study in The Journal of Social Psychology found that couples in love marriages experience lower stress levels because they enter the relationship with prior emotional bonding.
• Arranged marriages, especially those with short courtship periods, often lead to post-marital adjustment struggles, contributing to mental health issues like anxiety and depression.

4. Changing Youth Aspirations

• With increasing education and exposure, young Indians are prioritizing career, personal growth, and emotional connection over traditional marital expectations.
• A 2022 survey by Tinder India found that 83% of millennials and Gen Z prefer dating before marriage, indicating a cultural shift toward self-chosen partnerships.

Counterarguments & Realistic Solutions

Some argue that arranged marriages ensure family support, cultural alignment, and long-term stability. However, the solution isn’t to abolish arranged marriages entirely but to modernize them:

• Semi-arranged marriages (where families introduce matches but individuals have the final say).
• Longer courtship periods before marriage to assess compatibility.
• Reducing caste/community restrictions to allow wider partner choices.

Conclusion

India is at a crossroads where tradition and modernity must find a balance. While arranged marriages won’t disappear overnight, encouraging **more love marriages — or at least, more autonomy in partner selection — **can lead to happier, more equitable unions.

With rising education, urbanization, and individualism, the future of Indian marriages should prioritize love, choice, and mutual respect over rigid societal norms. The data is clear: when people choose their partners, marriages are more fulfilling, gender dynamics are fairer, and mental well-being improves.

It’s time India embraces this shift — for the sake of happier, healthier relationships.